So remove yourself from the situation, count to 10, breathe deeply, cool off and get a grip. Keeping your anger all bottled up creates stress and an internal pressure cooker that at some point will erupt, releasing itself in a negative way. One of Rabbi Akiva’s maxims is "All that the Merciful One does, He does for good" (Talmud - Brachot 60b).
That’s why the Talmud tells us not to discipline our kids when angry; we’re not being objective and at that moment any action is not for the sake of the child (Talmud - Moed Katan 17a). It means seeing the person who hurt you as a hurt person. It's untying the knots that keep you emotionally entwined and prevent you from healing.
Because I know about cumulative binomial probability. I actually posted this question to eharmony on their facebook wall. I have no idea why my matches don’t just close out the match if they’re not interested.
In any case, I’m baffled as to why girls just don’t close out the match if they’re not interested. What’s more likely is eharmony never deletes accounts, so I’m matched with girls that joined for the free weekend 6 months ago, and don’t even know they have a message from me in their queue.
I know right, how ridiculous is it to be “communicating” with 50 different girls all at the same time, all waiting for them to respond. What’s most upsetting about this shenanigans is that I am waiting for 748 girls to get back to me, with stage 1 questions.