Meanwhile, the person who sits back and waits for advances settles for the least bad option on the table.
At the end of the day, whether sparks fly or conversation fizzles, first dates provide an opportunity to make new friends. Kim Halford, “Individual differences in dispositional mindfulness and initial romantic attraction: A speed dating experiment,” Personality and Individual Differences 82, (2015): 14-19.
And because attention reveals intention, both romantically and platonically, every first date can be a win-win. Just by being mindful and attentive, any men out there that are reading this, you can put yourself way ahead of everyone else and find more "success" and satisfaction in your dating life.
On the other hand, we have all had the experience of spending time with someone where the chemistry is almost palatable. While this sounds exhausting, research reveals that participants are able to glean enough information from these brief interactions to decide whether they would like to see the other person again — and why.
Speed-dating studies are better sources of relational predictive data than meeting people at parties or other social events, because a speed-dating context involves participants who are looking for romantic relationships.
Based on an analysis of 70,000 users who logged on at least three times in a month, OKCupid found that women are 2.5 times more likely to receive a response to their messages than men are.