On a site like Ok Cupid anyone can send you a message, whereas on the free app Bumble or on Tinder or e Harmony, only people you are matched with can get in touch.Kominers thinks online daters could be well served by a service that isn’t quite free but doesn’t involve a subscription fee either.If your goal is to get a date—or find a mate—are you better off with one type over the other?
Inspired by Jiayuan.com, the largest online dating site in China, he thinks dating sites would have happier customers overall if they did away with their current pricing models and charged users per message sent.
“If sending messages had a price or you could send only a fixed number per day, people you contact online would know you had to give up something to do so, which would incentivize better behavior,” he says.
Even Tinder, despite its reputation for attracting users seeking causal romance, may deserve a more open mind.
“It's a myth that some sites are better for relationships while others are more for hookups,” says Manfredi.
In the 2016 Consumer Reports Online Dating Survey, more than 9,600 people who had used an online dating service in the last two years were asked which one they had joined.