He and his girlfriend were on a break at the time, and my boyfriend was living in another country. But I remember our friends at the wedding looking at us and thinking…That night he told me he loved me and that he was going to marry me. Before he passed away he was married 5 times, to 4 different women. Divorced her when I was 6 then remarried her shortly after. You know that you are not right for each other and you’re wasting your time. What we had was beautiful and we didn’t want it to change.
We met late in the summer of 2013 at a mutual friend’s BBQ. Going to that wedding with him, made it very clear to me that I was in love with him. I don’t really know how to put our connection into words. I never really dated a guy that had similar interests as me, had similar style to mine, or that would be considered as ‘my type’. There was one thing that really struck me about him… Since we had so many mutual friends, it was the people around who adored him. You’re then in a constant power struggle for the upper hand in the relationship.
We were both in unhealthy, on & off, long term [and long distance in my case] relationships. We both knew the couple getting married so it wasn’t awkward. When I was around him I didn’t think about anyone else, I didn’t want to look at my phone, and I didn’t think about how the life I had known for the last four years was falling apart right under me. I was constantly being told how great of a guy he was and how much he was admired by people that I knew and trusted.“Elena, if you elope…I will cut you a fat check.” My dad was a wonderful man, but he had terrible luck with women. You decide to stay together because you are inconvenienced by the thought of starting over with someone new.
Ask yourself this vital question: Do you want to remain single again after a couple of years of pointless relationships?
The better decision is to go separate ways right now and search for a more suitable partner.
And by the way, there is no guarantee that suchlike relationships will last long.