Perhaps it’s because we mistake being vulnerable with being weak.
In this Intimacy Skill, vulnerability means opening yourself up emotionally to the most tender, fragile parts of yourself in order to allow your husband to truly see you.
But a brush drawing or Zen rock garden is perfectly happy having a lot of empty space.
I knew our problems weren’t all his fault and wanted a chance to start out right should I meet someone.
I thought I was at a disadvantage for finding love.
It includes saying ‘I can’t,’ which gives rise to the opportunity to receive help from your man, which in turn makes both you and him happy.
It means that instead of getting angry with our husbands for spending too much time working or with friends, we simply say, “I miss you”.
Vulnerability, then, is the opposite of these things. It means allowing the man to act as your protector, even though our urban centers have few mountain lions to fend off.