While I respect Harris’ pushback against society’s harmful hook-up culture, IKDG’s overall concept seemed impractical to me.As a young woman working virtually non-stop for a non-profit in Washington, D. I just didn’t have time for an interview-style, no-strings-attached coffee meeting, which I’d argue is an unhelpful result of IKDG culture.That it could be a part of growing personally.” I’ll admit here that I couldn’t make it past the first chapter of IKDG.
We want to curate these stories in the hopes of preventing more damage from being done and to provide an alternative narrative to the rigid and narrow thinking that IKDG and Harris’ other work espouses.
Here’s how you can participate: We hope to help keep the power of the stories in the hands of those they belong to. It is our hope that these stories will not only give comfort to those who have felt like they are alone, but will also spur Joshua Harris on to further and more humble reflection on his contributions to purity culture—reflection that does not come at the cost of those most harmed by his teachings. Add a link to your own #IKDGstories blog post, podcast, or video.
Instead, I found intentional casual dating a healthier approach.
Please note the purpose of this post is not to analyze the merits of IKDG.
The best dating and romance advice I found during singlehood came from the experienced evangelical women around me. Janice Shaw Crouse, the author of and chair of the Institute on Religion and Democracy’s board of directors. Crouse that first notified me of Harris’ Tedx talk. Crouse asking her to expound on why she is grateful Harris is rethinking some of his early advice to single Christians.