I was totally creeped out and told him that it was not allowed.That’s not necessarily a company-wide policy but he was absolutely giving the impression at this point that he wanted to ask me out.
What should I tell the hiring manager when she, inevitably, drops my name?
You’d be doing her a favor if you stopped lying to her and told her what’s going on.
The one that really threw me off was gym membership. (Unless you were a personal trainer or something else relevant.) No, that’s totally weird.
Some employers offer subsidized or discounted gym membership as part of their benefits package, but they either offer it or they don’t; it’s not the sort of thing people generally negotiate individually for themselves. If I told an interviewer that my biggest weakness during an interview is that I am very hard on myself and I continue to feel like I can do a better job and continue to strive for better performance of myself in my career, how would that come across during an interview?
It’s too much in the model of “I’m a perfectionist” or “I work too hard” or other attempts to answer with something the applicant hopes the interviewer will actually see as a strength.