But there are some things that you just do not say to a single mom on a first date, assuming you’re angling for a second.
“My ex has a lot of issues so I really want to get married so my daughter has a new mom.” 14. Commit this list to memory and never ever utter a single one of them.
Of course, they don’t have our experience, or our battle scars for that matter, but, this is beside the point. Or, you may decide that she is right, but, that finding a partner is just not worth the trouble.
Men are not always looking for a younger body to cuddle up next to.
More important is that fact that younger women are more willing to show their feminine side to win a man’s heart.
If she prefers not to go out when her kids are home, or doesn’t like to hire a babysitter on school nights, she’ll tell you. Of course, that could involve — way, way down the road — being a part of a family with children. But if you tend to take turns picking up the bill, but she sometimes rearranges her life to get out of the house and pays for a babysitter so she can spend time with you, acknowledge that. Of course you want to know when she is free, if she has the kids all the time and whether the dad is involved.
If you don’t ask her out — no matter how innocuous or considerate the reason — she will assume you don’t want to see her. Leave the ask to the last minute, she has to scramble to find a sitter and that’s really uncool. But if you explicitly ask these details on the first or second date you will appear reluctant about dating a woman with kids.
Whether you have been awarded primary custody as part of a divorce or you have been tragically widowed, raising your child or children as a single father can be an incredibly difficult challenge to undertake.